I saw this on a posting for a necklace, and just had to share it. Love the way this is written, so true!
“Let go of the idea of perfection – you are not perfect, you are real. Let yourself be flawed, and allow yourself to make mistakes. Recognize that you’re not always going to have it all together. Sometimes your heart is going to break, you are going to get hurt, you are going to feel pain. Don’t apologize for being broken – every time you break you become a little more alive. You become more open with yourself. You become exposed to your sensibility. Every crack tells you a little more about yourself – your strength, your courage, your tenacity – what you’re made of. Do not hide these pieces from the world, they are a part of who you are. You see, the most beautiful people are beautifully broken. Their hearts are heavy but they love the deepest. They have seen the dark but they appreciate everything that shines. They’re compassionate, understanding, and empathetic. beautiful hearts just don’t happen – and you my dear are going to show the world just how beautiful you are.”
I always thought perfection was necessary. I drove myself crazy trying to be the perfect everything, student, friend, mom, wife, etc. Years for YEARS of my life I was obsessed with perfection, driving me to an eating disorder, control issues, and major depression. The harder I tried the more imperfect I was, there was just no way to keep up with everything like that. Letting go, living my life, not worrying about what other people think, allowing myself to be authentic somehow feels more perfect than my strive for perfection ever did.
All the adjectives people use to use to describe me, especially while going through tough times, I could never see. I was so busy trying to cover things up and stitch myself back together, so no one could see the flaws or pain, I never allowed the real beauty of my personality or heart to shine through. Now I realize every imperfection is a connection to someone else. Some of them are things that allow me to feel love in a way I never would have had I never experienced the pain. Some are connections through empathy, patience, understanding for others.
One of the biggest gifts I have received through all the pain is the ability to look at someone and truly see them. Often times its easiest to look at someone you just met or are getting to know and see all the things that others say about them. It’s as if they are standing there with words glued to them, “she’s a bitch” or “he’s unreliable” all the outside worlds ideas of who they think these people are, and the things that have happened to them in their past. By allowing myself to look at my own flaws and see the beauty behind them, it’s allowed me to step back and look at other people in the same way. I am forever changed by the connections and friendships I have had by allowing myself to see all the imperfect beauty in those around me.
I’m going to continue living my life beautifully broken, exposing my flaws and letting the light burst through them. Embracing myself for the dork I am, dancing in the kitchen and not caring who’s watching, laughing at myself, celebrating my small victories, falling hard, loving deeply, and seeing the beauty in everything that is around me. May we all embrace our flaws and the flaws of those around us and teach our children to as well. Just think how much more beautiful the world would be.